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기모간사소식 128(2024-3-29) 

 

개인적으로 축구를 많이 좋아해서 양천 FC라는 조기축구팀에 소속되어서 매주 토요일 운동을 합니다.

지난 3월 23일(토) 오전에는 신정교 밑에 있는 '영롱이 축구장'에서 양천 FC와 신영도 FC 축구 시합이 있었습니다. 두 번째 쿼터를 시작하려는 순간 신영도 FC의 한 분이 쓰러지셨습니다. 갑자기 심근경색이 온 것입니다. 119에 신고를 하고 CPR을 진행했습니다. 기도를 확보하고 저와 다른 한 명이 가슴 압박, CPR을 한참 진행했는데 구급차가 환자가 쓰러진 장소를 제대로 찾지 못해서 골든타임을 넘기고 거의 20분만에 도착했습니다. 응급실로 후송된 이후 몇 시간 만에 그 형님이 돌아가셨다는 소식을 들었습니다. 우리의 일상과 생명이 얼마나 소중한지를 실감하는 시간이었습니다. 모든 후원자님들도 건강 잘 챙기시기를 바랍니다.  

 

AI, ChatGPT

요즘의 관심사 중 하나는 ‘AI, ChatGPT’입니다. 원래 기술의 발전에 관심이 많은데 급변하는 시대에 뒤쳐지지 않기 위해서, 또한 조금이라도 준비해서 필요한 분들에게 도움이 되기를 바라는 마음으로 열심히 공부합니다. 이번 주에는 OMF 본부 사역자분들을 대상으로 ‘AI의 현재와 미래_ChatGPT를 중심으로’라는 주제로 강의를 했습니다. 인공지능의 발달이 누군가에게는 기회로, 누군가에게는 위협으로 다가오고 있습니다. 거부할 수 없는 파도를 두려워하기보다 서핑을 즐길 수 있도록 준비하는 자세를 가지고 기술적인 부분은 부족하지만 열심히 공부해서 나누려고 합니다. 다음 주(4/2)에는 노회 목사님들을 대상으로 강의를 진행하려고 하는데 필요한 분들에게 도움이 될 수 있기를 바랍니다. 

 

죠이 지원사역부

올해 지원사역부에서는 정희원, 이임수, 박기모, 황재욱, 김민주 간사가 함께 사역합니다. 김민주 간사는 4월부터 육아휴직에 들어가게 됩니다. 작년과 비슷하게 저는 지원사역부에서 루틴한 역할들을 감당합니다. 매월 월간예배 준비를 함께 돕고 동문 모임인 PCJF를 지원합니다. 그외의 특별 행사들을 준비하고 진행하는 역할, 외부 학복협 캠청연 모임 등을 통해서 간사들을 지원하는 역할을 합니다. 

그리고 올해부터는 ‘성폭력 전담위원’을 맡았습니다. 전담위원은 조직내 이러한 문제를 예방하고 관련된 문제가 발생했을 때 이를 잘 대처하기 위해 세워진 조직입니다. 물론 가장 좋은 것은 성폭력 전담위원의 활동이 필요 없는 것입니다. 하지만 그러기 위해서 보이지 않는 곳에서 기도하며 감시하는 역할을 열심히 하도록 하겠습니다. 

전주대 강의

이번 학기도 매주 수요일 ‘기독교윤리와 적성’이라는 제목의 기독교 과목을 진행합니다. 3시간 수업을 위해서 8-9시간을 길거리에 투자해야 하지만 학생들을 만나면 힘이 납니다. 원래 이 수업은 35명이 정원인 수업인데 인기가 많아서(수강 바구니에 351명이 신청) 증원을 거쳐 현재는 43명이 수업을 듣고 있습니다. 이번 학기는 특별하게 제가 사랑하는 친구(전주 동현교회 이진호 목사)의 딸이 제 수업을 수강하게 되었습니다. 

지난 주는 ‘인간의 기원’에 대한 내용을 이야기하면서 ‘미세 조정(fine tunning)’에 대해서 이야기했습니다. 과학의 여러 현상 속에 나타난 창조주의 손길을 설명하는 시간이었는데 학생들의 지적 호기심을 자극하는 시간이었습니다. 대부분의 학생들이 기독교나 성경에 대해서 반감을 가지고 있는 이유는 제대로 된 정보나 지식이 전달될 기회를 갖지 못했기 때문이라고 생각합니다. 이번 학기 수업을 통해서 학생들이 인생의 의미를 고민하고 기독교와 성경에 대해 바로 알아가는 시간이 되기를 간절히 바랍니다. 

 

더기쁨교회_제자훈련

더기쁨교회 담임목사로서 제가 하는 가장 중요한 사역은 제자훈련입니다. 물론 주일 예배와 금요일 성경읽기 기도회도 중요하게 생각하지만 1:1로 진행하는 제자훈련은 한 사람의 변화를 볼 수 있어서 더욱 중요합니다. 주로 화요일과 토요일에 걸쳐서 6명과 Zoom으로 혹은 대면으로 만나서 1:1로 공부를 하고 있는데 단지 성경을 공부하는 것이 아니라 서로의 삶을 깊이 나누고 말씀을 통한 도전을 할 수 있어서 매우 의미있게 생각합니다. 한 사람이 또 한 사람을 세우는 역사가 일어나기를 간절히 바랍니다. 

주일 예배는 11시에 시작해서 12시경에 마치고 나눔을 가집니다. 이 시간에 아이들은 공과 공부를 진행합니다. 그리고 나서 함께 준비해 온 점심식사를 맛있게 하고 정리를 한 후에 커피 타임을 가집니다. 이 커피 타임에 아이들은 한결이와 한솔이의 인솔하에 놀이터에서 플레잉타임을 가집니다. 모두가 행복한 교회가 되기를 바랍니다. 언제든지 더기쁨교회 방문을 원하시는 분은 연락주시고 방문해주세요. 언제든 환영합니다.

 

가정 이야기

지난 1월 장모님께서 요양원에 입소하셨습니다. 치매 증상이 심해지셨는데 공격성이 나타나기도 하고 혼자 계시는 것이 위험해서 요양원 입소를 결정하게 되었습니다. 연로해 가시는 부모님들을 보면서 삶의 무게를 더욱 느끼게 됩니다. 요양원 생활에 어려움들이 있는데 적응을 잘 하시고 건강하시기를 기도합니다. 

여전히 전세집 문제는 해결되지 않고 있습니다. 작년 6월에 조합원자격으로 분양받은 아파트에 먼저 입주했는데 11월 계약만기가 되었음에도 아직 전세금을 돌려받지 못하고 있습니다. 임차권 등기를 신청했고 전세금 반환 소송을 진행 중인데 가능하면 경매까지 가지 않고 급매로 처리되어 전세금을 돌려받을 수 있도록 기도해주시기 바랍니다. 

한결이는 대일고등학교에 입학해서 새로운 상황에 잘 적응하고 있습니다. 한솔이도 중2가 되어 학급회장으로 즐겁게 생활하고 있습니다. 아이들이 학업에 너무 스트레스를 받지 않고 건강하게 잘 자라가기를 바랍니다. 

아내와 저는 건강을 위해서 함께 PT를 받고 헬스를 하고 있습니다. 적어도 일주일에 3-4번은 운동하려고 노력하는데 함께 꾸준히 운동을 하며 건강을 잘 유지하려고 합니다. 

제 소식에 항상 관심을 가지고 읽어주시고 기도로 함께 해주셔서 감사합니다. 여러분들의 소식도 답장이나 댓글로 남겨주시면 함께 기도하도록 하겠습니다. 

 

기도제목

1. 죠이선교회 지원사역부 안에서 감당하는 루틴한 사역들을 잘 감당하도록

2. 전세집(대신빌) 문제가 속히 잘 해결되도록, 속히 급매가 이루어지도록

3. 한결, 한솔의 학교 생활과 가족의 건강을 위해서

4. 더기쁨 교회 제자훈련을 통해서 한 사람 한 사람이 주님의 제자로 세워지도록

5. 양가 부모님들의 건강과 가족들의 건강을 위해서(장모님 치매가 악화되지 않고 요양원에 잘 적응하시도록)

 

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'한국 사회 젊은 세대가 윌버포스와 같이 사회 구조적 부패에 맞서 싸우도록 가르칠 것인가?'

 

How Can We Teach the Younger Generation in Korea to Fight Against Social Corruption, Just as Wilberforce Did?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

How Can We Teach theYounger Generation in Korea to Fight 

Against SocialCorruption, Just as Wilberforce Did?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Gimo Park

 

 

 

 

 

RES 500K ResearchStrategies

Professor William B.Badke

Apr. 10. 2013

 

 

Outline

 

1.Introduction. 3

 2.The Social corruptions within the Korean society. 3

 1)A Historical Overview.. 3

 A) Economy. 3

 B) Church. 4

 2)The Attitude of the Younger Generation about SocialCorruption. 4

 3.Overview of William Wilberforce’s Life. 5

 1)His Early Life. 5

 2)How He “Threw away” His Youth. 5

 3)His Colleagues and the Clapham Sect.6

 4)The Critical Factor of His Success. 6

 4.Current Approaches to Solve the Social Problems: WilliamWilberforce – A Case Study. 8

 1)Structure, Direction & Speed. 8

 2)The Role of Local Church and Para Church (Role of ClaphamSect.)8

 3)Beyond William Wilberforce. 9

 5.Conclusion. 9

 6.Bibliography. 10

 

 

1.     Introduction

In 1997, God called me to be a staff for a campusministry. Therefore, I am interested in young adults. In my opinion, the Koreansociety has many problems. The problems are not only individual, but alsostructural. In the case of individuals’ problems, we can teach, guide and makean effort for them to overcome their problems. However, it is very difficult tosolve the structural problems because some people who have a vested right donot want to lose their privileges. In order to solve many social problems, weshould change laws, social structures, and systems.

William Wilberforce shows us a good model of solving sucha social issue. Through this paper, I first begin by providing an overview ofthe situation of the Korean society and the life of Wilberforce, who put his time and effort to abolish the slave trade and erected the Reformation of Manners. Finally, I suggest how Korean young adults can fight against social corruptions and problems. 

 

2.     The Social corruptions within the Korean society

 1)    A Historical Overview

 A) Economy

100 years ago, Korea was one of the poorest countries inthe world. The country was devastated because of the outbreak of the KoreanWar, a great number of people were dead and all of the economic infrastructureswere ruined.Throughout the military dictatorship of Park Jung-Hee, Korea achieved a high growth of economy which was called the miracle of the Han-River. Now Korea is a member of Organization for Economic Cooperation and Development (OECD) and G20. Its GNP increased from $255 in 1970 to $22,708 in 2013.[1]However, Korea’s general labor environment, which includes the workers’ rightsand their wages, as well as a sense of morality within the country, did notcatch up to the speed of the drastic economic growth. Owing to thereinforcement of chaebol(conglomerate), the gap between the rich and the poor is continuing to growwider. 

 

B) Church

In 1884, the first Protestant missionary came to Korea.[2]In1960, the number of Korean Protestants was 623,000, and by 1985, it had grownover tenfold to 6,489,000.[3]Theperiods of church explosion and the high economic growth overlap. Now, theKorean church is able to send out missionaries into the world, and in 2011, itsent 19,373.[4]Thelargest church in the world is now situated in Korea, and the Yoido Full GospelChurch (Pentecostal) has approximately 850,000 members.[5]Inspite of this dramatic growth, the Korean church does not have concerns aboutsocial problems and have a lot of issues within itself such as money and sexualproblems in church. Recently, the head pastor of a prominent church in Korea(Sarang Community Church) was accused of plagiarizing his dissertation, creating further problems for the trustworthiness of Korean pastors. It can be clearly seen, therefore, that the moral standard of the Korean church did not catch up with the speed of its growth. 

 

2)    The Attitude of the Younger Generation about Social Corruption

The lives of theyoung adults nowadays are very difficult. Without knowing why or how, they are driven by theextreme speed of neoliberalism, economics, and mammonism. They do not knowwhere they should go. Because they are overwhelmed by the main trends ofsociety, the young adults are therefore not interested in social justice andthe well-being of others. They should be more morally conscious, but they arenot interested. I suggest that Wilberforce can shed light in such a darksituation.

 

3.     Overview of William Wilberforce’s Life

 1)    His Early Life

Wilberforce was born on August 24th, 1759 toRobert and Elizabeth Wilberforce, and he spent his first ten years in thefamily home on the high street of Hull.[6]Hewas weak, small and had poor eyesight. His father died when he was ten. Hismother sent the young William to Robert’s childless brother (another WilliamWilberforce).[7]Williamand Hannah were a kind, warm and loving evangelical Christian couple whoinfluenced Wilberforce in his faith. 

 

2)    How He “Threw away” His Youth

He was very smart and good at giving speeches. At 17 (1776), he went into St John’s College inCambridge.[8]Buthe spent that time enjoying playing cards, drinking, and gambling.[9]Hewas witty, generous, and an excellent conversationalist, and therefore had manyfriends, and he was especially friendly with William Pitt (who would become thefuture Prime Minister of England). At 21 (1780), while he was still a student,Wilberforce was elected as a Member of Parliament in Hull.[10]Atthat time, most politicians got into their positions with money. Wilberforcealso paid about 8,000[11]athis first election. 

He was spiritually born again in 1785 by reading a booknamed Rise and Progress ofReligion in the Soulwritten by Phillip Doddridge.[12]After that, he regretted his past and resolved to commit his future to God.[13]Sohe wanted to become a pastor. But Pitt and Newton advised him to remain inpolitics, and he resolved to do so “with increased diligence andconscientiousness.”[14]OnOctober 28th, 1787, Wilberforce wrote in his diary: “God almightyhas set before me two great objects, the suppression of the slave and thereformation of manners.”[15]

 

3)    His Colleagues and the Clapham Sect.

The Clapham Sect. or Clapham Saints were a group of influential like-minded Church of England social reformers based in Clapham, London at the beginning of the 19th century (active c. 1790–1830).[16]Theyare described by the historian Stephen Tomkins as "a network of friends and families in England, with William Wilberforce asits centre of gravity, who were powerfully bound together by their shared moraland spiritual values, by their religious mission and social activism, by theirlove for each other, and by marriage."[17]

 

4)    The Critical Factor of His Success

William Wilberforce was motivated by faith(principle). Sometimes, he voted against the ruling Tory party of his friend,Prime Minister Pitt.[18]Heput his Christian faith above his political party’s opinion. 

Second, He appealed not to emotions, but tofacts. In order to find the facts, he asked for help from the Clapham Sect.[19]Itwas composed of politicians, businessmen, lawyers, churchmen, and researcherswho each played a role in supporting him.[20]Organizations such as the Clapham Sect. and the Yorkshire Association wereimportant for his success.[21]

Third, he could form public opinion. In order todo so, he wrote a book called A PracticalView of the prevailing Religious Systems of Professed Christians in the Higherand Middle Classes in this Country Contrasted with Real Christianity,[22] wrote persuasive articles in the newspapers[23]andgathered more than 500,000 signatures for a petition to abolish the slavetrade.[24]

Fourth, the international and domestic situation,such as the French Revolution and of the revival of Christianity through JohnWesley and George Whitefield helped him to accomplish his goal.[25]

Finally, his perseverance was the most importantfactor in his success. In 1807, he could submit a law to end the slave trade.But he fulfilled his work only in the year of his death, 1833.[26]

 

4.     Current Approaches to Solve the Social Problems: WilliamWilberforce – A Case Study

 1)    Structure, Direction & Speed

Albert Wolters suggests the concept of “Structure andDirection”.[27]God created the world with creational constitution, so the structure itself isgood. On the other hand, the direction was distorted because of humanity’s sin.However, in the case of young adults, speed is a more important factor thandirection. They have accelerated with extreme speed into the wrong directionwithout understanding the meaning and value of life. Therefore, they need helpin decreasing the speed and to be guided in the right direction. 

This was equally true in 17thand 18thcenturies, when the slave trade was the principal source of income in England.[28]Withthe help of William Wilberforce’s direction, England was able to give up on thefinancial benefits of slave trade, because he helped the country to realizethat it was morally wrong. 

 

2)    The Role of Local Church and Para Church (Role of ClaphamSect.)

Wilberforce did not work alone. He participated inClapham sect. and asked for help from other organizations. In Korea, the localchurch and the para church (NGO) should also bear some responsibility inbringing social reformation. They should support the cause financially,prayerfully, and with their time. The churches should especially teach andguide the new generation to the right direction. 

3)    Beyond William Wilberforce

Previously, I have commented on the 5 critical factors ofsuccess of Wilberforce. I think that the methods of reformation of the Koreansocial system and structure should almost be the same as Wilberforce’s methods.

We should teach young adults the truth of the Bible, andthey should not make choices based on their individual interests or theirpolitical party’s opinions but their faith when they are at a crossroad. 

Also, we should teach them to appeal not to theiremotions but facts. In order to do this, they should make the effort toresearch the problems of the society before they attempt to solve its majorissues. 

In order to form and arouse the public opinion nowadays,we must also use Social Network Service. The Jasmine Revolution in the MiddleEast and the ‘Occupy Wall Street’ movement were created through SNS. UsingFacebook and Twitter would be an effective way to obtain information and sharethe urgent and important social issues. 

Korea is the only divided nation in the world. Currently,it is sandwiched between the development of China, the threat of war from NorthKorea and the rise of the Third World. Instead of focusing on their emotionsand becoming fearful of their surrounding situations, the Koreans should turncrisis into chance. Now in Korea, a lot of churches and NGO are continuing tobe prepared for the reformation. They should help each other and work hand inhand. 

Finally, they should make an effort to accomplish theirgoal. In order to do so, they will need to work together and encourage eachother and endure until their goal is fulfilled.

 

  5.     Conclusion

Through this paper, I suggestedsome guidelines for bringing about social reformation. However, even in thecase of the abolishing of slave trade in England, one person needed to answerGod’s call and be willing to fight against social corruptions. Korea will alsoneed to have someone like William Wilberforce as its reformer, but whether sucha person appears will depend on God’s will. Meanwhile, the Korean societyshould work to create organizations like the Clapham Sect. and pray for a realsocial change that can transform the lives of God’s children. 

 

Butlet justice roll on like a river, righteousness like a never-failing stream!(Am 5:24)

 

  6.     Bibliography

 

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Park, Joon-Sik."Korean Protestant Christianity: A Missiological Reflection." InternationalBulletin of Missionary Research36, no. 2 (04/01, 2012): 59-62. 

Spring, David."The Clapham Sect: Some Social and Political Aspects." VictorianStudies5, no. 1 (1961): 35-48. 

Statistics Korea."GNP." http://kosis.kr/feature/feature_0103List.jsp?mode=getList&menuId=06&NUM=405(accessed Mar. 27, 2013). 

Tomkins, Stephen,.The Clapham Sect : How Wilberforce's Circle Transformed Britain. Oxford:Lion Hudson, 2010. 

———. WilliamWilberforce : A Biography. Grand Rapids, Mich.: William B. Eerdmans Pub.Co., 2007. 

White, John."Christian Responsibility to Reform Society: The Example of WilliamWilberforce and the Clapham Sect." Evangelical Review of Theology32, no. 2 (04/01, 2008): 166-72. 

Wilberforce, William. A PracticalView of the Prevailing Religious System of Professed Christians, in the Higherand Middle Classes in This Country, Contrasted with Real Christianity.London: H. Fisher, R. Fisher, and P. Jackson, 1839

Wolters, Albert M.Creation Regained : Biblical Basics for a Reformational Worldview. GrandRapids, Mich.: William B. Eerdmans Pub., 2005. 

 

 

 

[1]StatisticsKorea, "GNP," , http://kosis.kr/feature/feature_0103List.jsp?mode=getList&menuId=06&NUM=405(accessed Mar. 27, 2013).

[2]Joon-Sik Park, "Korean Protestant Christianity: A MissiologicalReflection," International Bulletin of Missionary Research36, no.2 (04/01, 2012), 59.

[3]Ibid.,59

[4]Steve Sang-Cheol Moon, "Missions from Korea 2012: Slowdown andMaturation," International Bulletin of Missionary Research36, no.2 (04/01, 2012), 84.

[5]Philip Jenkins, "Church Growth, Korean Style," Christian Century127, no. 18 (09/07, 2010), 61.

[6]Stephen Tomkins , William Wilberforce : A Biography(Grand Rapids,Mich.: William B. Eerdmans Pub. Co., 2007), 8.

[7]Ibid., 9

[8]Ibid.,19

[9]Ibid.,20

[10]Ibid.,25-26

[11]GarthLean, God's Politician : William Wilberforce's Struggle(London: Darton,Longman & Todd, 1980), 15.

[12]KevinCharles Belmonte and Kevin Charles Belmonte, William Wilberforce : A Herofor Humanity(Grand Rapids, Mich.: Zondervan, 2007), 74.

Wilberforce wrote to his son Samuel: “I understand you are reading Doddridge’s Riseand Progress. You cannot read a better book. I hope it was one of the meansof turning my heart to God. Certainly, there are few books which have been soextensively useful.”

[13]Ibid.,78

[14]Ibid.,80 Wilberforce remembered: “Mr. Newton, in the interviews I had with him,advised me to avoid at present making many religious acquaintance… to keep upmy connection with Pitt, and to continue in Parliament.”

[15]StephenTomkins , The Clapham Sect : How Wilberforce's Circle Transformed Britain(Oxford: Lion Hudson, 2010), 59.

[16]"ClaphamSect," , http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Clapham_Sect(accessed Mar. 27, 2013). Don’t cite Wikipedia or useit in a bibliography.

[17]Tomkins,The Clapham Sect : How Wilberforce's Circle Transformed Britain, 12 JeffreyP. Greenman, "Anglican Evangelicals on Personal and Social Ethics," AnglicanTheological Review94, no. 2 (Spring2012, 2012), 188. recitation

[18]CliffordS. Hill, The Wilberforce Connection(Oxford: Monarch, 2004), 57-58.;John White, "Christian Responsibility to Reform Society: The Example ofWilliam Wilberforce and the Clapham Sect," Evangelical Review ofTheology32, no. 2 (04/01, 2008), 167.

[19]Lean, God'sPolitician : William Wilberforce's Struggle, 102

The name “Clapham Sect” was not used till twelve years after Wilberforce’s death and thirty after Clapham had ceased to be the centre of “The Saints’” activities. It was doubly misleading as they were never anything like a sect and their fellowship was always nationwide-and, indeed, stretched far beyond Britain.

[20]White, ChristianResponsibility to Reform Society: The Example of William Wilberforce and theClapham Sect, 169

[21]SamuelH. Beer, "The Representation of Interests in British Government:Historical Background," The American Political Science Review51,no. 3 (1957), 637.

[22]Greenman,Anglican Evangelicals on Personal and Social Ethics, 189 Wilberforce called it his "manifesto."

[23]DavidSpring, "The Clapham Sect: Some Social and Political Aspects," VictorianStudies5, no. 1 (1961), 42.

R. J. Hind, "William Wilberforce: Reformer and Social Educator," AustralianJournal of Politics & History32, no. 3 (1986), 396. The Newspaper’sname is Christian Observer.

[24]Hill, TheWilberforce Connection, 65-66

[25]White, ChristianResponsibility to Reform Society: The Example of William Wilberforce and theClapham Sect, 169

[26]Ibid.,171

[27]AlbertM. Wolters, Creation Regained : Biblical Basics for a ReformationalWorldview(Grand Rapids, Mich.: William B. Eerdmans Pub., 2005), 59.

[28]JosephE. Inikori, "Slavery and the Development of Industrial Capitalism inEngland," The Journal of Interdisciplinary History17, no. 4(1987), 784.

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- 나를 억울하게 만드는 무례한 사람들에게 대처하는 최소한의 방법
"왜 그 사람은 나에게만 화를 낼까?"
"뻔한 거짓말을 서슴없이 하는 이유가 뭘까?"

 

 
 

 

‘내가 보기에 인간의 악에 있어서 가장 본질적인 심리 문제는 바로 여러 가지 특정한 형태로 나타나는 ‘나르시시즘’이다.’(스캇 펙) 
 
나르시시스트 : 이들은 연인관계뿐 아니라 모든 인간관계에서 늘 서열을 정하려 들고, 관계에서 자신이 강자가 되어 지배력과 결정권을 과시하고 싶어한다. 

 

 
나르시시스트들은 상대방을 무장해제 시키기 위해서 ‘러브 바밍(love bombing)’을 시도한다. 이는 마치 폭탄을 추하하듯이 강렬하게 그리고 과도하게 애정을 쏟아붓는 것이다. 
러브바밍 시기가 지나면 상대방을 깎아내리기(devalue)를 시도한다. 이어서 상대를 무시하고 버려두기(discard)를 시작한다. 
 
에코이스트(echoest) : 나르시시스트의 피해자가 되는 사람으로 이들은 책임감이 강하고 거짓말을 싫어하며 특별 대우 받는 것을 부담스러워하는 사람들로 보통 사람들보다 매우 신중하고 생각이 깊다.(41)
 
우리 주변에 다양한 관계에서 나르시시스트들이 존재한다. 그들을 절대 사과하거나 자신의 잘못을 인정하지 않는다. 다른 희생양을 만들어 책임을 전가하거나 나는 특별한 이유가 있어서 그럴 수 밖에 없었다고 이야기한다. 또한 거짓말도 너무나 뻔뻔하게 한다. 한 두번 그런 상황에서 분쟁이나 마찰이 불편해서 넘어가다보면 결국 가스라이팅을 당하게 된다. 그 사람이 나의 부모일수도 있고, 배우자나 직장 상사, 연인이나 친구일 수도 있다. 나르시시스트들에게 피해를 받지 않기 위해서 가장 좋은 방법은 그들과 관계를 끊는 것이지만 그럴 수 없을때는 참고 먼저 사과하기보다 분명하게 자신의 입장을 표현할 필요가 있다. 
 
그것이 부모라면 물리적, 정신적, 경제적으로 독립해야하고 연인이나 친구라면 분명하게 관계를 정리할 필요가 있다. 

 

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